It’s not easy. In a world where most people just choose to be complacent and “normal”, settling down with whatever that is on their plate is the easiest, most convenient option.
If there’s anything I’ve learned in my course of 27 years, it’s that life is a huge shit. It’s a complex process of learning, loving, losing and battling personal fights in between. It’s about earning to survive and giving your best shot because the society expects you to do so. So the least you can do now is to be with people who don’t make life easier because cliche as it may sound but man, you only live once and you gotta spend it with folks who will have great connections with you, no matter what the circumstances are.
There are many things we may settle for in life: the food in the cafeteria, the water in the drinking fountain, the ass boss in your dream job, the clothes on the discounted rack. The one thing we should never settle for, however, is love.
Love is a complex state. It should be a growing relationship with someone. It is more than a feeling of personal gratification —more than filling a personal void and way beyond any bodily desire. And while there are many average things in life, love should not be one of them.
I’ve noted before that settling shouldn’t be an option for any 20-something woman, and this time I want to make things firm – love is a personal decision and a viable choice is always, always a necessity.
So now ask yourself: What do I deserve?
As you figure things out, you’ll realise that you can’t just settle with anything that is good enough.
Because darling, you are a rare piece and you don’t need a gem who will complete you because you are a finished project. Instead, you need someone who will complement you and make you see life in a different light.
You deserve pieces of happiness every day – morning kisses, tight hugs, long cuddles.
You deserve letters, notes and Post-Its that remind you how special you are.
You deserve someone who misses you the moment you walk out the door, even if you’ll only be gone for a moment.
You deserve to always feel wanted, to never doubt for a moment how your significant other feels about you.
You deserve the kind of love that makes you feel secured. The love that makes you passionate about waking up and gathering the courage to battle traffic jams and frequent anxiety attacks.
You deserve someone who will allow you to grow on your own but catches you in your shortcomings.
You deserve something that isn’t easy; a love that is hard and passionate and will make you learn things in wider horizons.
Because you deserve someone who, without a doubt, will choose you every single day.
Yes, you deserve it all. Not a fairy tale, not a fancy fiction story, just life and love in their simplest forms, through shits and bliss and everything in between.
And you don’t even have to force it because you know that good things will eventually unfold.
For now, enjoy yourself. Learn to find your own happiness despite life uncertainties until you meet the one you deserve.
Again, I tell you, you only live once and a fulfilling kind of love is worth the wait. Always worth the wait.